Introduction
In our education, we have received many maxims like:
- Haste makes waste.
- Look before you leap.
- Stop and think.
- Don’t judge a book by its cover.
All these maxims push us to think deliberately, to make time and effort in
every decision, and not to trust our intuition. However, in our life, we are
all exposed to some difficult situations and to dangers, but we fortunately survive
thanks to the quick decisions we make.
The part of the brain responsible for this kind of decisions is called the
adaptive unconscious.
The Adaptive Unconscious is:
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Although this unconscious is very powerful, it’s sometimes fallible. In
this book, the author mentions experiments and tells stories to show when we
have to trust our instincts and when we have to be wary of them.
The power of thin-slicing
Let's have a look at this conversation between a husband and a wife:
Sue : Sweetie! She’s not smelly…Bill : Did you smell her today?Sue : I smelled her. She smelled good. I petted her, and my hands didn’t stink or feel oily. Your hands have never smelled oily.Bill: Yes, sir.Sue: I’ve never let my dog get oily.Bill: Yes, sir. She’s a dog.Sue: My dog has never gotten oily. You’ better be careful.Bill: No, you’d better be careful.Sue: No, you’d better be careful… Don’t call my dog oily, boy.
Do you think that this daily conversation can tell us something about the relationship of this couple? And whether they are happy or not? At first glance, it seems impossible, because in a marriage, many issues are involved, such us Family, Money, Love, Children, etc.
However, John Gottman based on a one-hour conversation between a husband
and a wife, can predict with 95% accuracy whether that couple will still be
married 15 years later!
Who is Gottman and how can he do that? Let’s see.
Experiment
John Gottman is a psychologist in the University of Washington. He bring
husbands and wives in his lab that he calls the Love Lab, he lets them
talk about a general topic (like pets for example), and he videotapes them. The
results are then analyzed according to something Gottman dubbed SPAFF (for
SPecific AFFect), which is a coding system that relates a code to every
conceivable emotion that a married couple might express during a conversation.
Examples:1 = Disgust, 2=Contempt, 7=Anger, 10=Defensiveness, 11=Whining, 12= Sadness, 13=Stonewalling, 14=Neutral …
The notation “14, 14, 7, 7, 13, 13” means that in a conversation of seven seconds,
one member of the couple was first neutral, then he gets angry and ends up
being stonewalling.
Conclusion
All marriages have a distinctive pattern, a kind of marital DNA, that
surfaces in any kind of meaningful interaction. To understand this pattern,
Gladwell uses the analogy with what we call Fist in the world of Morse
Code.
Definition of Thin-slicing
Thin-slicing is the ability of our unconscious to find patterns in situations and behavior based on very narrow slices of experience.
Primed for action
Experiment 1
In each line bellow, try to make a grammatical four-word sentence as quickly
as possible.
- Him was worried she always- Ball the throw toss silently- Shoes give replace old the- Be will sweat lonely they- Sky the seamless gray is- Should now withdraw forgetful we- Sunlight makes temperature wrinkle raisins
If you think that this exercise was a simple language test, then you’re
wrong. Actually, this exercise can affect unconsciously your behavior. Take a
look at the sentences again and you’ll find certain words like “Worried”, “silently”,
“old”, “lonely”, “gray”, “forgetful” and “wrinkle”. This exercise is then making
your brain think about the state of being old!
Experiment 2
A psychologist called John Bargh invited two groups of undergraduates to take
the same test above. The first group was primed with polite words (respect,
patiently, polite, courteous), and the second with rude words (aggressively,
bother, disturb, intrude). After the test, each student has to go to the
experimenter office in order to receive other instructions. As a part of the
test, Bargh made sure that when the students get to the office, the experimenter
is having a conversation with a confederate.
Conclusions
- The students primed with rude words interrupted the conversation between the two men in a less than 5 minutes.
- Most of the students primed with polite words just stood there and they never reacted, even after 10 minutes.
Much of the time, we are simply operating on
automatic pilot, and the way we think and act on the spur of the moment are more
susceptible to outside influences than we realize.
Experiment 3
Another test mentioned by the author is what we call the IAT (Implicit Association Test). It’s a measure within social psychology designed to detect the strength of a person's automatic association between mental representations of objects (concepts) in memory.
Exemple:
Put a check mark to either the right or the left of each word, in the category to which it belongs.
Male or Career Female or Family
.................................Lisa.......................................
.................................Matt......................................
.................................Matt......................................
.................................Laundry.................................
.................................Entrepreneur..........................
.................................John......................................
.................................Merchant...............................
.................................Bob......................................
.................................Capitalist...............................
.................................Holly.....................................
.................................Joan......................................
.................................Home....................................
.................................Corporation...........................
.................................Siblings.................................
.................................Peggy....................................
.................................Jason....................................
.................................Kitchen.................................
.................................Housework...........................
.................................Parents.................................
.................................Sarah....................................
.................................Derek...................................
.................................Entrepreneur..........................
.................................John......................................
.................................Merchant...............................
.................................Bob......................................
.................................Capitalist...............................
.................................Holly.....................................
.................................Joan......................................
.................................Home....................................
.................................Corporation...........................
.................................Siblings.................................
.................................Peggy....................................
.................................Jason....................................
.................................Kitchen.................................
.................................Housework...........................
.................................Parents.................................
.................................Sarah....................................
.................................Derek...................................
How was it? Easy? Now, Try this:
Male or Family Female
or Career
.................................Babies.................................
.................................Sarah..................................
.................................Derek.................................
..................................Merchant..............................
.................................Employment........................
.................................John....................................
.................................Bob.....................................
.................................Holly...................................
.................................Domestic............................
.................................Entrepreneur.......................
.................................Office.................................
.................................Joan..................................
.................................Peggy................................
.................................Cousins.............................
.................................Grandparents.....................
.................................Jason.................................
.................................Home.................................
.................................Lisa...................................
.................................Corporation.......................
.................................Matt.................................
.................................Sarah..................................
.................................Derek.................................
..................................Merchant..............................
.................................Employment........................
.................................John....................................
.................................Bob.....................................
.................................Holly...................................
.................................Domestic............................
.................................Entrepreneur.......................
.................................Office.................................
.................................Joan..................................
.................................Peggy................................
.................................Cousins.............................
.................................Grandparents.....................
.................................Jason.................................
.................................Home.................................
.................................Lisa...................................
.................................Corporation.......................
.................................Matt.................................
If you found this exercise harder, it means that it’s
easy for your brain to make a link between the woman and family than
between the woman and career.
Conclusions
Conclusions
- The giant computer that is our unconscious silently picks up all the data it can from outside (experiences, people, books, movies, etc). That’s what comes out in the IAT.
- Our unconscious attitudes and our behaviors may be utterly incompatible with our stated conscious values.
The Storytelling Problem
The author argues that in some cases, people are good
in solving problems in a flash of insight than in explaining how they do
to solve them; the same think can be applied with decisions.
Example 1
People are good in recognizing faces, but they are less good in describing them.
Example 2 : Puzzles
A man and his son are in a serious car accident. The father is killed, and the son is rushed to the emergency room. Upon arrival, the attending doctor looks at the child and gasps, ‘this child is my son”. Who’s the doctor?
A giant inverted steel pyramid is perfectly balanced on its point. Any movement of the pyramid will cause it to topple over. Underneath the pyramid is a $100 bill. How do you remove the bill without disturbing the pyramid?
NB : The solutions are at the end of the article.
Spontaneity is not random
Example 1
According to Gladwell, Improvisation comedy (Improv) is
a good example of the kind of thinking that Blink is about. Indeed, the
Improv is a form of theater when the actors get up onstage without any
idea of what character they would be playing, and then they take a
random suggestion from the audience and start improvising the dialogue
and the story at the moment of playing.
Example 2
One day, a house was set on fire. The firemen rushed to
the house and started dousing the flames with water in the kitchen,
then moved to the living the room. But to their surprise, the fire
didn’t stop. And in a glance, the fire department commander felt that
something was wrong, something that he could not explain with words, so
he ordered everybody to go out. After they went out, the house exploded,
and they discovered later that the fire was under their feet in the
basement. If the fireman had taken all his time to understand what he
was feeling, all the team would have being dead.
This story shows that our unconscious reactions come out of a locked room, and we can’t look inside that room. But only with experience, we become expert at using our behavior in a good and efficient manner.
Example 3
Silvan Tomkins is a teacher of psychology who easily
knows a lot about people only by looking at their faces. His student,
Paul Ekman, tried to understand how his teacher does that, so he started
a research which consists of identifying all the movements that a face
could make. Every combination of these movements called an Action Unit
(AU) was associated with a number, and each number was related to a
specific emotion. For Example: Happiness = AU 6 and AU 12, Disgust = AU
9.
By the end of his research, Ekman could understand what people have in mind only by looking at them, just like his teacher.
For information, this research was used by the computer animators of Pixar (Toy story) and DreamWorks (Shrek).
General comment
The book contains more other ideas, but I just mentioned the ones I judged most important.
The solutions of puzzles
Puzzle 1 : The mother
Puzzle 2 : To tear the bill or tu burn it.
Amal